the biggest fight EVER!!!

Kelley and i don’t fight – sometimes we argue (about ridiculously stupid things) but we get past it fairly quickly – Kelley is so calm and laid back that he just doesn’t engage in arguing, per se – he just says his piece (peace?) and he’s done – i, on the other hand, am the emotionally  charged, hot-tempered one – it’s something that i constantly struggle with and having recognized that behavior in past relationships, i have tried really hard not to bring that into my marriage – so on the occasion that i do get really pissed at Kelley (usually for something ridiculously stupid), i usually shut down to prevent myself saying something really mean and inappropriate that i can’t take back – probably not the best way to handle things, but it works for us – at least for now …

i have friends who have had dreams that their significant other did something really bad and when they woke up, they were mad at them – that’s never happened to me but when i woke up Saturday, i thought for sure Kelley was mad at ME!  i have always dreamed very vividly and more so when i’m pregnant – and i usually don’t remember the details unless i talk about the dream, which i rarely do – but this one was too far-fetched not to sharet!

i’m not exactly sure where we were – maybe some church event or some type of class – all i know is there were a lot of other people there – some couples and some single – and for some reason our refrigerator was there and i have no idea why!!  anyway, out of the middle of nowhere Kelley calls me out of the room and calls me over to the fridge – all of a sudden he starts going off on me about how i never cook anymore and how i’m wasting food – now i will say that toward the end of this pregnancy, i have not been cooking much – i’m too tired and not very hungry and just haven’t had the energy – but what’s weird is i can’t remember if i was pregnant in the dream or not – at any rate, he was mad that i hadn’t been cooking and opened the fridge to prove his point – as he opened the door, all i could see were these HUGE sides of beef – like the kind you see hanging in a slaughterhouse – “look at this”, he yelled – “i took this out of the freezer days ago and now it’s gone bad!” – uhhhhhh – he pulled out some huge piece of meat and threw it on the counter – “and this, what about this?” – i know it was a dream but you still could have knocked me over with a feather when Dream Kelley pulled a cow’s head out of the refrigerator and said, “and how come you haven’t cooked THIS?!?!”  – i took one look at him and said, “what about me makes you think that i would EVER cook something that has EYES?????”  at that point, Kelley got really pissed (which NEVER happens in real life) and threw the cow’s head down – he looked me dead in the eye and said, “i’m leaving – and when i get back on Wednesday, your lap better be COVERED in job applications” and then he stormed off leaving me standing there looking at him like “WTF just happened?” – then all of the men who had witnessed our huge blow up came over and started hitting on me

needless to say, this was a WEIRD dream and the biggest fight that Kelley and i have had to date – when i told Kelley about it, he laughed and tried to be all “YEAH!!” as if he were really like Dream Kelley – yeah, i shut that down with a quick eye roll.  he hasn’t mentioned anything about it since i told him, so clearly it didn’t stick with him like it did me – if i were really motivated, i’d get on the Internets and find some dream interpretation – but clearly i’m not – instead, i’ll just tease Kelley about fixing him cow’s head the next time he asks what’s for dinner!